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10 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Signs Of Infidelity
Certain things about signs of infidelity come as a surprise to most people. Even people who pride themselves on being knowledgeable about extramarital affairs may be unfamiliar with some of the little-known facts below. This information is taken...
Children And Divorce
A recent statistic shows that almost half of all marriages end in divorce. Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but maybe the hardest on children. Most often they experience many feelings that they do not understand. They go through a...
Forty Something
Yes, I am forty something, forty-four to be exact and loving it. There will be no botox injections, implants or liposuction for me. I will be just fine with what God gave me, enhanced by living and eating right, with a little exercise on the side....
Get a Prenuptial Agreement before Your Next Marriage
While signing a prenuptial agreement can be one of the all-time romantic turnoffs, for people heading into their second marriage, a prenuptial agreement can give the trade-off of a better relationship through the security of financial and life...
How to Manage and Conquer Depression
Millions of people suffer from a depressive illness. They thought that depression is just a normal occurrence in their lives, which will go away after a short while. They just haven't realized how serious depression can be.
Did you know that...
Keeping Faith
Direct Answers - Column for the week of June 30, 2003
Please bear with me. I desperately need advice. I dated this girl for a year, and we broke up many times because of religion. We are of two different religions, and she wanted our...
Love Discrimination
Why is it people, especially the media, thinks that looking for love on the internet is shameful? The discrimination is particularly evident if you are looking for a foreign bride. I met my wife, Eileen, who is Filipina, on the internet. The...
Reasons For Breach in Marital Relations
Marriage is a most
pious term in the dictionary of social institution. It is not
only a lifetime bond between two persons but also a bond between
two families. Divorce on the other
hand is heartbreaking end of this relationship. It...
The Ethical Responsible Puppy Buyer
The responsible, ethical BUYER
We certainly hear and read multitudes of opinions of what makes a responsible papillon or phalene dog breeder (and many times those opinions are biased by the writers' backgrounds in papillons or...
Where does one start to succeed when nothing is working?
This article gives the key to success in the face of seemingly insurmountable difficulties.
In the course of my work prospective clients often send questions to me over the internet. The following question is one that is asked in one way or...
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Relationship Advice: "I've met Mr. Right. Do You Think He's the One?"
The question is a common one: How do I know if this is the right person. Am I doing the right thing?
The truth is we're never quite sure. We gather the data of experience. Then we take a shot at life one way of the other. Right or Wrong? Only experience tells us.
So, how do we make a good assessment before the decision? Here are some questions to ask yourself.
1. How well have I observed this person's past behavior? Behind the "look good" behavior of the infatuation period lies the everyday behavior with friends, family, work colleagues, and with you. What you see in the every day behavior is likely to persist.
Do you like what you are seeing?
Can you live with it if it doesn't change?
Would you stay with this person if you knew for certain that it would never change?
2. Assuming you have a really good sense of the person's behavior, then do you love him/her? Before answering, consider what I'm actually asking with this question.
Do you love the person just as is, not as could be? Do you love for who this person is now, rather than the possibilities you see? Those possibilities may never come to pass. How would you live with that?
Is there passion inside you to see, be with, to spend time (alot of time) with this person?
I've seen alot of people in "luke warm" relationships that were never hotter than that even to begin with. That's OK if it is your choice, but is this what you really want?
Does this person feel like the real thing, the real deal, the really true love to you, or is there still something nagging at you?
3.Assuming we have the behavior, and the love, is there a final something that will kill the relationship over time?
An addiction? Parents, children or other family that hates you? A commitment to something that will not leave enough time for you? A difference in religion that can not be resolved? Does he or she feel the same passion for you that you are feeling?
Let's be realistic: Love does NOT conquer all. I wish it did. If it did the divorce rate where I live wouldn't be near 70%. There's nothing wrong with making the choice for a committed relationship. But use your head and not just your heart!
About the author:
Steve Roberts is an experienced Marriage and Family Therapist sharing real life relationship secrets from over 20 years of practice. Get Insight & Wisdom for your Relationships at:
http://www.whatworksforcouples.com
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