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9 Myths About Being Single
More than 48% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals. The American Association for Single People projects that by 2010, 47.2% of adults will be unmarried. Being single does not mean being alone, nor does being in a couple for the...
Children's Discipline: How To Resolve Divorce Parenting Differences?
Did you know that inconsistency on matters of discipline gives double messages, produces anxiety and can be very confusing to your children? Children need to know where they stand in their behaviors. It is therefore critical for parents to resolve...
Dating Tip: Getting the Commitment
A lot of women want to know how to get a man to commit.
Even though we know better, we still believe (consciously or
subconsciously) that our purpose in life is to get a man to fork
over a two-carat diamond and a house in the suburbs. At the...
Do It Yourself Divorce Forms
Do It Yourself Divorce is an easy way to file the divorce for people who have no time to visit a lawyer or an attorney. But there is a partial list of paperwork that you will need to fill up, for a Do It Yourself Divorce. Each state has its own...
Marriage, Children and Divorce: When "le music" stops
It can happen in many ways. Sometimes, suddenly, out of the
blue, with no warning whatsoever. Other times, the music slowly,
gradually, fades to a deafening silence.
Divorce is the great plague on American families today. More
than 40% of...
Relationship Quiz - Copasetic, Caution, or Conundrum?
This quiz is based on key areas of communication and intimacy in relationships. The easiest way to take the quiz is to print it, so that you can circle your responses and add up the results. Use the scale below to gauge the health of your...
"Single Parenting: How The Challenge Of Single Parenting Affects Your Decision To Divorce."
Single parenting has seemingly become an acceptable norm which is unfortunate. According to the US Census Bureau, there were over 20 million single parents in the United States in the year 2000. That's a staggering statistic, certainly the worldwide...
Stop Divorce: "Should You Try To Stop Your Divorce If You're Just Thinking About Getting A Divorce?"
Thinking about getting a divorce doesn't necessarily mean that you should try to stop your divorce. Conversely, it could be wise to try to s top your divorce, only you know whether you should. Just because you're thinking about getting a divorce,...
Top Ten List of What to Do and What Not to Do in Relationships
Most of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a...
What Causes Separation Anxiety in Children?
While it can be comical, heart-breaking or occasionally even maddening, there is a perfectly logical explanation for Separation Anxiety in children. As a new parent, you probably enjoyed watching your child progress through the recognizable stages...
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How NOT to Have a Friendly Divorce
Whoa! Ending a marriage is a major decision. Have you prayed on it?
Note the 'NOT' in the title. The truth is, a good share of marriages that end in divorce could probably be salvaged, and a mutual life already built by two people continued and saved. However, when tensions reach the boiling point, a separation is often the best recourse. The next step after tempers have cooled and reason returns is likely to be a trip to divorce court. But this is one instance in life when being just plain stubborn isn't always the smartest move, especially when there are children involved who love both parents and hate it when the two people they love most in the world continue to fight.
How often in Real Life does one partner say to the other, 'I've changed my mind. I still love you and want more than anything to resolve our differences and reconcile. Couldn't we both give our marriage another try?'
Love is the bottom line. No doubt in some cultures, and even in some parts of the United States, there were marriages of convenience and 'arranged marriages', when love may not be the most essential factor. It's even rumored that some people marry for money -- horrors! But true love that bonds two people is worth more than a king's ransom, and shouldn't be taken lightly.
Some
search for love all their lives and never find it, while others hop from marriage to marriage as if they were merely changing dance partners. Ask yourself 'What would the Lord want for our family?' The answer will come to you instantly, if you only take a quiet moment to remember your faith and ask Him.
So, after the separation or 'respite' has ended, consider the outcome you really want. There are even classes on the Internet intended to guide you. Here are some websites that might help you to consider options other than divorce: http://home.universalclass.com/i/crn/3944.htm http://www.savethemarriage.com/ with Dr. Lee Baucom http://www.couplesgarden.net/
About the Author
Stephania is a human service professional with nearly 40 years in the field. She publishes a content-rich ezine, "Tidbits from the Pantry," about self-help, growth, and relationships to over 11,000 subscribers, and offers a life coaching service. To subscribe to her ezine, mailto:info@humansrv.net?subject=SUB Visit her site at http://www.humansrv.net
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