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A Look at Jewish Dating Traditions
Jewish dating traditions range from the rigid rules and regulations formulated in Biblical times to the modern, no holds barred attitude of today’s youth. In the olden days, men and women were pretty much kept apart until the matchmaker made an...
Dating - Finding The Best Romantic Getaways
Romantic Getaways
After a long stressful week of work or dealing with the kids,
wouldn't it be nice to take a long romantic getaway with your
spouse or sweet heart. Romantic getaways don't have to last
longer than a couple of nights or break...
Dating: How & Where To Meet Single, Ravishing, Alluring, Beautiful Women Of Your Dreams.
Are you a lonely man?
When was the last time you went out on date with a sensuous, sexy and beautiful woman?
Would you like to spark up your romantic life?
It has been reported that there are more single women in US than available men....
Dating Online - The new way to meet people
A lot has changed since the days of matchmaking and escorted evenings out. Dating in the 21st century has taken many turns, among these the emerging popularity of meeting partners online.
Online dating has many benefits. The shy dater can open...
Dating - The Safe & Fun Way
DATING. Smiles all over. If you really had to go through lot of tribulations, this adds spice to the humour. They become stories which the family loves to laugh about at dinner. However, If you want a hassle-free date, you need to sort out your...
Dating - What Gifts Not To Buy
What Not to Get Your Sweet Heart
With the gift giving season slowly approaching, many people will
be buying their sweetheart wonderful, heartfelt gifts. However
some times even though we have our best intentions in mind we
might slip up and...
Online Dating Secrets For Single Men
There is no need for single men to be lonely. Online dating has an infinite supply of women eager to meet men!!
Looking To Meet Women?
Craving Female Company?
Well, you've come to the right place! The internet is an ENDLESS supply of quality...
Personals - Minimizing Risk Of Online Dating
How to avoid online dating risks
Online dating has become a popular service nowadays. In fact,
so many people all over the world, mostly singles, are members
of various online dating services to find their perfect match.
While online...
The Misconception about Online Dating
So you've just joined an online dating site. You hurriedly, and
half-heartedly fill out a profile with no picture, and then wait
to be contacted. Several weeks go by, nothing. Now you are
beginning to feel discouraged.
Maybe people aren't as...
Tips To Secure Your Online Dating Safety
Online personals and dating can be a very fun venue towards
meeting that special someone. However, one's safety should still
be the top priority. Did you know that most online dating
services do not pre-screen their users? This means that...
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The Final Solution to Dating
I run a blog where I discuss the topic of the many games people play in the dating arena. I've posted hundreds of articles, many of which point out many of these troubles. Even if you haven't read the blog, you probably are aware of some of these schemes. While I wish it were easy to sum everything up into one neat, overlying problem, it's not that simple. Let me point out just a few of the issues.
For one, there's a definite lack of respect in dating nowadays. People don't even care about their partners enough to treat them as they deserve to be treated. Gossip, ridiculously high expectations, and rejections by ignorance are only some of the examples in this area. Grandparents are always carrying on about how today's generation has such a lack of respect. They talk about how, in their day, people cared about others and banded together through difficult problems. Why do they talk about these things? Because they're right! Through every activity in which I've been involved, I've encountered this problem. I'm tired of working for a hundred hours on a video project when the president of the organization receives but doesn't bother to even reply to your E-Mails asking him to review it. I'm sick of being ostracized from groups because I don't care to participate in their petty disagreements. And I'm exhausted after people expect me to work to death in volunteer organizations!
There are always exceptions to this rule, and I'm sure that there are many people who do have a great deal of respect for both their peers and their elders. Unfortunately, the majority, or at least the majority with the most influence, simply don't care.
Second, nobody is honest with themselves, let alone anyone else. Dating has turned into a torrent of backstabbing of which even Mark Burnett would be proud. Asking someone out is nearly impossible, because the gossip about it has already spread to a thousand people before you make the move. Then, when a rejection occurs (even if it's not rude), the rejector spreads rumors around to all his/her friends that cause them to completely ignore you, refusing to invite you to parties or even to initiate conversations with you. The biggest insult is that even if you asked point-blank, you'd still never get a truthful answer as to why such harm was directed towards you.
As if what occurs after a rejection isn't enough, people attempt to steal others' girl/boyfriends. One day, things are going well, and the next you find yourself wondering what happened to the relationship that was forming - that is, until you notice that person spending a lot of time with who you thought was your best friend. No explanation is offered, not even a "good-bye."
Third, people are not looking for someone who spends his or her time working to get ahead instead of getting flat-out drunk, who doesn't curse at or ignore his or her mate, and who actually makes time for whatever is occurring between them (whether it be a full-fledged relationship or just plain sex). They say they're looking for these things,
but in reality, they're attracted to people with the attributes described above. "Confidence" is not the answer to the equation. Assuming they both possess the same level of "confidence," the above-described person would win every time over the "warm, caring, and intelligent" (wo)man that people claim is the ideal mate.
The list of problems goes on. You might be intrigued to hear that while the problems seem innumerable, I propose they can all be rectified with the simplest of solutions. There's no danger involved, nobody has to lead radical changes, and it doesn't involve an "impossible" fight against biology.
I simply propose for men to stop asking women out.
Not for the rest of your life, but for just a short time, say, a month. It's not impossible, and you won't have to do it as much after the month passes. While there are a few (rare) exceptions, the vast majority of women don't ask out men 50% of the time. Women do have the advantage in dating, and it's time to level the playing field. Sure, talk with women as friends, and if someone initiates a conversation with you, then definitely reciprocate. However, let the woman ask you out if she's interested, no matter how attractive she is to you.
Some women have never asked anyone out in their lives. It's no wonder why these women continually treat men like they're lower beings. If they had to put up with the rejections that most men do all the time, I guarantee that they would have more respect for men. Women would no longer put up with moving from guy to guy based on who was interested in her at the moment. And spreading gossip about potential romantic interests certainly isn't going to help one's prospects.
People need to realize that humans, for all their ancestry, are not monkeys or horses or rabbits. They're humans, who can think and act for themselves.
Men have so much more capacity in the dating arena than constantly looking for sex at all costs, if they would only exercise it. It's time to stop being prisoners to so-called "biology." Women have the same urges men do, and they should do half the work, not 10% or 20%.
There are a lot of "seduction communities" on the Internet that teach men how to "seduce" women. I don't know of any similar organization that teaches women how to impress men with the same fervor.
There's my proposal. I don't think it's hard to implement. Imagine if all the men even at one corporation or university decided to ban together. Laziness won't be a problem, becausenobody even has to do anything. It's time to change our distorted culture. All I'm suggesting is to promote equality. Is that such a bad thing?
About the Author
Women in today's world have a huge advantage in the dating arena. As a result of outdated stereotypes, many women have never asked a man out in their entire lives, and those that have usually have too many men falling all over them. For men, the situation means rejections, sometimes rude rejections. The solution, however, is far simpler than you might think.
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